“Silence and Relationships Are Directly Correlated” – by Pradeep Kumar Cheruvathoor
Silence and Relationships are directly Correlated. Relationship with the “Inner” (Self) and Relationship with the “Outer” (World). Our Relationship with the former sets the tone for the latter. But there is a fundamental difference between the Nature of these two Primary Relationships. Relationship with the “Inner” is based on Union and Relationship with the “Outer” is based on Separation.
Practices such as Meditation, Mindfulness, Vipassana etc., establish this “Inner” Union. But the Relationships with the “Outer” (what we call as Relationships in the common parlance) is replete with challenges. Is it because we are not good enough? Absolutely not. Then what is the underlying problem?
The problem is caused by the sense of illusory separation created by the Ego. By Ego is meant the identification with the “I am the Body” idea. From this idea stems the idea of the “Inner” and “Outer.” Once we assign Reality to this sense of separation, we are lost in the quagmire of our own illusion, like a spider that creates its own web. This chasm creates all the emotions. That is fundamentally the Challenge in all Relationships: Jealousy, Self Doubt, “Am I good enough?,” Seeking Validation in Others, Negative thoughts, Pointing the fingers at Others, sense of hopelessness, et al.
We are all part of One Universal Energy that does not lend itself to Separation, other than the Illusory “sense of separation” created by identification with Thought. Since a building is only as good as its foundation, our Relationship with the “Outer” (What we call as the “World”) suffers , because it is based on the pseudo foundation of the illusion of separation. We have forgotten our Common Source and identified with what arose from it.
What is the way forward to a harmonious “Inner” and “Outer” life? The solution is to transcend the “Inner” and “Outer” ideas. Now, this approach, as an idea, is just like any other ideas. Silence arises when you transcend the sense of separation and you operate from the Heart.
Heart is that from which thought arises. Silence is your Heart, the Universal Energy Itself. But the practice of Silence provides immense benefit of harmonious Inner Relationship (self Love, Bliss) and Outer Relationships ( work and your personal life ). Silence provides the opportunity for you to blossom to the full potential of an Individual human being. The semantics of the word ” Individual” means that which cannot be divided, but we have chosen to divide ourselves and suffering is the direct result of this unconscious choice.
What is the way forward? To move on a Journey from Unconscious Choice to Choiceless Awareness. The practice of Silence is this Journey.
To be Silent is to Stay Home and Stay Safe….. in your Heart.
You can choose to be blissful or suffer.
It is your choice and only yours.
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Hear Pradeep Kumar interviewed on The LIFE CHANGES Show at: http://lifechangesnetwork.com/leveraging-the-power-of-silence-with-guest-pradeep-kumar-cheruvathoor-and-musical-guests-suzanne-teng-and-gilbert-levy-on-show-592/
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