“No Pain Equals No Pain,” by Diana Cole
In my early twenties, I experienced a life-altering injury that forced me into terrible physical pain. After years of research and some trial and error, I was able to come up with a system to become pain free. The best part of all is that I was able to apply what I learned from researching how to get out of physical pain to my emotional state, too. Now I am pain free, both physically and emotionally — and this success is also possible for you.
After my injury, I couldn’t ignore my need for healing for even a minute. My body demanded that I heed the call. I woke up to healing when I experienced pain in my body that was constant, real, and crippling. I needed it to stop and I was ready to dig deep if that’s what it took.
It is only in times of weakness or difficulty that some of us seek larger truths. When my injury caused me to become solely focused on healing myself, I found answers — and I wanted to share them with others.
On my journey to become pain free, I met with many specialists and doctors who were experts in the field of relieving pain or recovering from pain. The problem was, no one had the “magic pill,” or the secret piece of information I needed to get out of pain.
On my hunt for information, the most important thing I learned is that pain attaches to pain. In other words, if I have an injury, all my pain goes to that place of injury; in a sense, it becomes a pain hub. What this meant to me is that I needed to be careful not to feel pain or it would increase the pain I experienced at my point of injury.
As it turned out, staying away from pain was a way for me to feel relief, but it wasn’t intuitive at first. I would take an exercise class and be asked to do something that would cause pain, but I wanted to push past it to get the result I was seeking. I would hear instructors say, “Keep going. It might hurt now, but it will make you feel better when you leave” — the old “no pain, no gain” mantra. Even my physical therapy nurse would say, “I know it hurts, but keep going.”
This way of treating pain seemed like a disconnect, and now I know it was! My pain was not cured until I committed to not doing anything that caused me pain. It was almost as if my body remembered pain so well that if I did something to trigger the pain, it would come on faster and stronger than before. When I decided on no more pain, I experienced pain less frequently. Simply put, I didn’t do anything that caused pain.
As the moments, days, months, and even years passed following my injury, I gradually became aware of my thoughts and desires. I started to notice that my thoughts and feelings determined how my life was unfolding; I realized I needed to apply my no-pain rule to my emotional life, too, if I wanted to be happy.
If I thought about something painful, it caused me to feel bad and it brought memories forward of other painful experiences. I could not ignore that connection.
Today, I understand more than ever how my thoughts shape my life. If I think of something painful, I need to stop the thought as soon as possible and start thinking better thoughts. This is one of the most powerful things any of us can ever do for ourselves.
When things are hard, turn toward yourself with softness as you acknowledge whatever big or small crises you are going through — a physical injury or illness, a broken heart, a big loss, or anything else that has you writhing in pain. You don’t have to relive painful experiences. You don’t have to do anything that causes you physical pain — and in fact you shouldn’t!
Remember: no pain equals no pain.
About: Diana Cole is a spirit translator, thought leader, and author. Passionate about spirit guidance, she is committed to teaching people how to access it for themselves so they may find freedom from pain and limitation and live a life of abundance, fun, and inspiration. Diana offers her empowering tools for spirit guidance in group settings, speaking engagements, live workshops, and through her vibrant Instagram and Facebook communities.
She is the author of “Spirit Translator: Seven Truths for Creating Well-Being and Connecting With Spirit” (St. Martin’s Press, August 2020) and coauthor of “Pillars of Success” (August 2020) with Jack Canfield. Diana’s first children’s book, “Alina the Positive Thought Warrior,” is due to be released at the end of 2020. Learn more at www.DianaCole.com.
Hear Diana Cole Interviewed on The LIFE CHANGES Show at: http://lifechangesnetwork.com/dont-wait-to-be-happy-with-guest-diana-cole-and-musical-guest-jami-lula-show-593/