What LOVE Is Not

“What LOVE Is Not” by Dorothy Lee Donahue

Q: Dear Dorothy, This is Jan from Los Angeles and I am having a difficult time with many of my life long friends.  Ever since the lockdown began over a year ago, some of my friends are making what I feel are very unreasonable demands due to their fears.  Even though I love them all very much, I feel that I have a right to my opinions and my choices, and I don’t like to be pressured on a daily basis to conform to their ways and ideas as to what I should and shouldn’t do during these challenging times. 

Some of my most loved and best friends are telling me that if I don’t do as they suggest or think like they think, that this means I don’t love them.  It boggles my mind to hear such nonsense. 

I love my friends very much and have honored them by simply allowing them to make their choices without any criticism or judgment on my part.  In the past, we were easily able to agree or disagree and now if I don’t do as they think I should, they accuse me of not loving them. 

I am so confused and ask that you please help me understand what is going on.

A: Dear Jan, these very interesting times are bringing up major levels of confusion and lots of fear.  What I sense is the issue here, is simply that your friends believe that love is knowing what is best for you and that they are pushing you to conform to their ideas so that they can then believe you are safe. 

I, too have many friends who are now speaking so differently to me because they are buying into FEAR and this has made me a little uncomfortable knowing that they are not at all ok with my choices.  However, I choose to love them and let it be ok to have major differences of opinion as to what is best for me. 

Some have chosen to no longer communicate with me and although I miss them, I still love them and have learned that I don’t have to like our differences and it is ok, for now, to live separate lives.  With all of the confusion and fear being thrown our way, I have made it a point to Thank our Mother/Father God for the ability to speak from my higher self to the higher selves of the ones I love. 

I choose to go into daily meditations and ask for my higher self to be able to communicate with the higher selves of those I love and then I let them know how much I truly love them and that I look forward to the days in the future when we will be on the same page again.  And even if some of my loved ones are never again able to be on the same page with me, I will love them always and they will continue to live in my heart and be in my prayers for as long as I am here on earth. 

Let’s remember that no matter our personal choices, we are all Divine Children of God.  Instead of living in confusion, I urge you to choose love, dear Jan, as it is from choosing love that we can co create miracles.  

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