I have had more than a few friends lately use these exact words about me to my face, (with humor and with smiles and laughter), but the words nonetheless were exactly, “You are evil.”
Now for most people who know me, I would hope that “evil” isn’t the first word that comes to mind when they think of me, but in this case, I think evil is a good thing.
This is what happened.
I got me-self a new cell phone and a new phone number recently. Knowing that none of my friends and family would recognize my new number, I proceeded to take great pleasure in anonymously sending many of my friends sweet, loving and sometimes suggestive and a few even provocative texts from their “secret” admirers. I was careful to measure what I sent to whom and who had wives and husbands that might get jealous if they found it and made sure that all the texts would be well received and also made sure not to let the joke go on too long after they had contacted me with texts saying, “WHO IS THIS?” or “Okay, this is obviously someone who knows me well,” or “Thank you so much, but I unfortunately don’t remember meeting you…”
Most all of my friends and family had a good laugh after they either figured out it was me or I told them it was me. It was sort of my own private Candid Camera or Jamie Kennedy Experiment. One of my friends laughing told me that I was creating karma, and that paybacks are a “b&#%#^.” I responded that I would enjoy this kind of exchange with a “secret admirer” friend and that I had just the friends that could pull it off nicely to the amusement of us all.
As if scripted, that night after saying that, I received a Wall post on my Wall on Facebook from a mysterious FB “friend,” who I don’t know. Now decidedly, with 5000 friends, I don’t know everyone of my FB friends, but this one was more strange than just not knowing my FB friend. This person was able to befriend me without me accepting them as a friend. How? Well, the only way that this is possible, that I know of, is if I had invited them first. To have invited them, I would have had to know them, right? Actually, in my case, not necessarily, as I did invite fans that were on my E-mail list at the beginning of my FB experience. And this person could have been one of these fans.
But, when I clicked on this person’s name to read their profile, they not only didn’t have anything written about them, I couldn’t even check out our mutual friends, or his friends period, because this person had none. I was his only friend.
And moreover, the wall post read, “It was a pleasure seeing you last night.” Now, I go to a lot of events and this would not be uncommon for someone to write something like this on my Wall after an event, as I have to many people after seeing someone at an event. But the fact of the matter is, that particular night in question, I was home, ALONE!
Worse, I have written this person on Facebook and asked him if I maybe had seen him another night? and asked where he supposedly had seen me. Come to think of it, for all I know, maybe he had seen a video of me on Youtube, or seen me performing on PBS on TV or something and that’s what he was referring to, but being cryptic as we are on FB and Twitter these days. He, he. At this point, anything is possible.
I just thought of something, now that I have written this blog post, I am going to go to my FB Wall and remove the post from this person, so people don’t go checking him out, and writing him, because that would not be nice, in case it is just an innocent bystander who was happy to reach out to me and got his dates wrong about when he saw me and who hasn’t been on FB since, especially since he has no reason to be on FB, because he has no friends there.
But whether this is a joke or not, it does have me humored, and it has made me think of how maybe some of what we consider “evil,” really isn’t so bad, that maybe we have just been looking at it as such. And maybe if we look at some “evil,” and expose it for what it is, someone being silly, thinking they can put one over on someone else and just wanting to have fun, or boost their ego or who doesn’t know better, maybe it would be worth a good laugh, or would be easier to turn into good.
in any case, at the end of the day, I can take a joke and I am glad my friends can too and I am glad we can play this way. Evil, in this case, is the spice of my life at the moment, call me silly. :-0
P.S. If you are a dear friend and didn’t get a text like that from me, it’s not because I didn’t think you couldn’t take a joke or that I didn’t care to play with you like that, it’s just that the “evil” made it’s way out of my system before I got around to you. 🙂